暴力を振るう可能性のあるパートナーを見分ける15項目

渡辺千賀さんの Blog より、「精神的または肉体的暴力を振るうようになる可能性の高いパートナーを見分ける15のポイント」。

Abuse checklist saves woman from worse harm

1. Pushes for quick involvement: Comes on strong, claiming, "I've never felt loved like this by anyone."

2. Jealous: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly; prevents you from going to work because "you might meet someone."

3. Controlling: Interrogates you intensely (especially if you're late) about whom you talked to and where you were; keeps all the money; insists you ask permission to go anywhere or do anything.

4. Unrealistic expectations: Expects you to be the perfect mate and meet his or her every need.

5. Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your supporters of "causing trouble."

6. Blames others for problems or mistakes: It's always someone else's fault if something goes wrong.

7. Makes others responsible for his or her feelings: The abuser says, "You make me angry," instead of "I am angry," or says, "You're hurting me by not doing what I tell you."

8. Hypersensitivity: Is easily insulted, claiming hurt feelings when he or she is really mad.

9. Cruelty to animals or children: Kills or punishes animals brutally. Also may expect children to do things that are far beyond their ability.

10. "Playful" use of force during sex: Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will during sex; finds the idea of rape exciting.

11. Verbal abuse: Constantly criticizes or says blatantly cruel things; degrades, curses, calls you ugly names.

12. Rigid gender roles: Expects you to serve, obey, remain at home.

13. Sudden mood swings: Switches from sweet to violent in minutes.

14. Past battering: Admits to hitting a mate in the past, but says the person "made" him (or her) do it.

15. Threats of violence: Says things like "I'll break your neck" or "I'll kill you" and then dismisses them with "Everybody talks that way."

サン・ディエゴ保安局に類似の記事もあり。こちらは17項目。まとめられたり言い換えられたりしているが大体一緒。目新しいのは「物を壊す」「口論中に力に訴える」かな。
Abusive Behaviors: Signs for Victims

1. JEALOUSY
2. CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR
3. QUICK INVOLVEMENT
4. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
5. ISOLATION
6. BLAMES OTHERS FOR PROBLEMS
7. BLAMES OTHERS FOR FEELINGS
8. HYPERSENSITIVITY
9. CRUELTY TO ANIMALS OR CHILDREN
10. "PLAYFUL" USE OR FORCE IN SEX
11. VERBAL ABUSE
12. RIGID SEX ROLES
13. DR. JEKYLL AND MR. HYDE MOOD SWINGS
14. ****PAST BATTERING
15. ****THREATS OF PHYSCIAL VIOLENCE OR DEATH
16. ****BREAKING OR STRIKING OBJECTS
17. ****ANY FORCE DURING AN ARGUMENT